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Caregivers Love
Dear Friends, I saw Gabor Mate a few days ago and he was giving a talk on his book “the Myth of Normal”, discussing how the society that we live in, is contributing to the underlying trauma in the underlying lack of importance of providing children with the nurturing that is needed to support healthy upbringing.
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Claim Back Your Right to Chose
Dear Friends, Choice seems so easy for some, but as a small child if choice was not given or taken away what then? If you grew up in the environment of having your big feelings being dismissed, physical wounds downplayed, your body not yours, your achievements not yours, no choice in food, clothing or activities.
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Grief Has No Timeline
developmentaltrauma, somatichealing, somaticexperiencingkelowna, somaticexperiencingtherapy, somaticexperiencing, childhoodtrauma, thebodykeepsthescore, nervoussystemregulation, transformingtouchtherapy, griefsupport Dear Friends, I have recently seen people in my practice that are struggling with grief, and they have shared that getting the support/ understanding from close friends and loved ones, can be challenging. Part of the problem is in our “modern society” is we have
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Unthaw Your Freeze
We are wired for survival and living through trauma can show up in different ways in the body, such as fight, flight or freeze. We do not consciously decide which of these nervous system expressions show up. Freeze carries with it a lot of shame, blame and doubt. Why didn’t I run, or fight back, why did
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Resiliency is not proving you are “tough”.
Dear Friends, I am seeing this lately in a few social media posts that resilience is being seen as being “touch” or a proof of “strength.” This a falsehood as resilience is the inner capacity to weather storms, not fight against them. Dr. Peter Levine (developer of Somatic Experiencing) once said: “I do not work
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The path to being seen & accepted as your beautiful, true authentic Self… is to first gift that loving awareness to yourself.
Happy New Year Dear Friends! A new year always feels like a time of contemplation, taking stock of what lessons the last year brought and what I would like to see for 2023. I shy away from the tradition “resolutions” and like to ask myself the question: “How do I want to loving occur for
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No need to Compare Your Life Pain
The measuring of your painful experiences to another’s and deeming it not as “bad” is a form of self-rejection. This comparison and negating of your history are a reinforcing of being not enough to have your pain acknowledged as important. Self-judgment squashes your life energy and keeps you in a stagnant pattern that thwarts
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There is no need to compare your life pain with anyone else’s. If it hurt you it was bad enough.
Dear Friends, The measuring of your painful experiences to another’s and deeming it not as “bad” is a form of self-rejection. This comparison and negating of your history are a reinforcing of being not enough to have your pain acknowledged as important. Self-judgment squashes your life energy and keeps you in a stagnant pattern
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Expand Your Sense of Safety
Hello Friends, I have just completed the first module of SSR training, based on the book “Somatic Resilience & Regulation, Helping Clients Move Forward from Developmental Trauma”, coauthored by Kathy Kain, PhD, and Stephen Terrell, PsyD. The training itself was a creation of a “safe haven”, that was supportive to us as clinicians, in learning
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Practicing Mental & Physical Wellness
Mental health struggles do not show. PTSD, chronic anxiety, depression or grief all can hide behind the seemingly “I’m fine” exterior. At the very core of life, nothing is more important than our physical and mental health. Especially now, the global crisis that we are living through, which is taking its toll on both. When