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Resiliency is not proving you are “tough”.
Dear Friends, I am seeing this lately in a few social media posts that resilience is being seen as being “touch” or a proof of “strength.” This a falsehood as resilience is the inner capacity to weather storms, not fight against them. Dr. Peter Levine (developer of Somatic Experiencing) once said: “I do not work…
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The path to being seen & accepted as your beautiful, true authentic Self… is to first gift that loving awareness to yourself.
Happy New Year Dear Friends! A new year always feels like a time of contemplation, taking stock of what lessons the last year brought and what I would like to see for 2023. I shy away from the tradition “resolutions” and like to ask myself the question: “How do I want to loving occur for…
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No need to Compare Your Life Pain
The measuring of your painful experiences to another’s and deeming it not as “bad” is a form of self-rejection. This comparison and negating of your history are a reinforcing of being not enough to have your pain acknowledged as important. Self-judgment squashes your life energy and keeps you in a stagnant pattern that thwarts…
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There is no need to compare your life pain with anyone else’s. If it hurt you it was bad enough.
Dear Friends, The measuring of your painful experiences to another’s and deeming it not as “bad” is a form of self-rejection. This comparison and negating of your history are a reinforcing of being not enough to have your pain acknowledged as important. Self-judgment squashes your life energy and keeps you in a stagnant pattern…
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Expand Your Sense of Safety
Hello Friends, I have just completed the first module of SSR training, based on the book “Somatic Resilience & Regulation, Helping Clients Move Forward from Developmental Trauma”, coauthored by Kathy Kain, PhD, and Stephen Terrell, PsyD. The training itself was a creation of a “safe haven”, that was supportive to us as clinicians, in learning…
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Practicing Mental & Physical Wellness
Mental health struggles do not show. PTSD, chronic anxiety, depression or grief all can hide behind the seemingly “I’m fine” exterior. At the very core of life, nothing is more important than our physical and mental health. Especially now, the global crisis that we are living through, which is taking its toll on both. When…
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Listening to Emotions and Welcoming All
In my journey to become an SE Practitioner and now studying the Internal Family Systems modality, one of the pearls of wisdom I have learned is the ability for us to listen within. Listening is a skill in life that has its challenges, when trying to hear others, as well as, practicing hearing what needs…
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Life Transitions
Transitions in life are filled with feelings that are uncomfortable, uncertain, exciting and can also be lengthy, boring and feel stale. It can encompass all the flatness of a prairie landscape to experiencing the exhilaration of climbing a mountain peak. In 2020, it has felt like trudging through a marathon of highs and lows of…
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Legacy of 2020, the Curse, Blessings and Threads Hope
My word to start out this year was “intentional”, and while I was able to fulfill some of that intentionality there was a big pothole on 2020’s road of life, called Covid-19. At first it felt like the zombie apocalypse without the zombies, I was anxious, on high alert in anticipation of what would happen…
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Overriding Emotions
We all are good at overriding our nervous system, to push more, be more and try harder. We have all received the message, at one point, of “buck up and soldier on” in response to a reaction we are having either to a physical or emotional hurt. Think back to a time either as a…